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NOLA on my mind – Day 3

This entry is part 2 of 3 in the series New Orleans Mission Trip

Beecher MemorialFirst Work Day – Monday, September 12

8am came very quickly on Monday. We met the director of the Disaster Relief effort for the UCC, our project manager, and two long-term volunteers with the project. After a brief overview of the Disaster Relief Mission in New Orleans we headed out to our project for the week – the renovation of Beecher Memorial UCC.

Beecher Memorial is located in the 7th Ward and was under five feet of water post-Katrina. The surrounding neighborhood is predominantly working class and poor and African-American. Beecher was gutted right after Katrina, but its rebuilding has been postponed as members’ homes have taken precedence. Its members still worship in the building – although they relocated during the summer as it’s just too darn hot in there. Things are getting closer to completion as sheetrock is almost completely in, the drop ceiling should be going in next week.

There were two more volunteers that met us at the church. They were from Ohio (of course we would travel hundreds of miles to meet Ohioans). They had stayed over from the week before.

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We were given the lay of the land and then were handed off to long-time volunteer Marjorie. Marjorie is from Chicago but made three week-long trips with her church and then decided to do a long-term stint on her own. She had no construction experience prior to this but is now pretty much a pro. Our first mission was to install insulation into a 15 foot ceiling. Yeah, right! Me on a taaaaaall ladder staple-gunning insulation over my head. Sounds fun right? Add the no air conditioning, goggles, and dust mask and I was in heaven (serious sarcasm). At the end of the day I felt like I’d gone through some sort of hazing. But, I did do the whole darn ceiling. Not bad for someone who’s not particularly fond of heights. And the ceiling looks pretty good.

After our long day we decided to cruise over to the Ninth Ward to see what we could see – answer – a lot of destroyed homes, with a few coming back around to normal. Quick showers at Little Farms were in order as we got ready for a fabulous potluck dinner thrown by our hosts. Red beans and rice, fried chicken, andouille sausage, and jambalaya – that truly is heaven!!

We were able to visit with several of the members of Little Farms and hear what they had going on. Although small they seem very active in their community. A small farmer’s market has just started in their area and they are having a craft/information booth there every week. We traded simple craft ideas that would be good for kids and adults. Another member his motorcycle ride from Buffalo, New York to New Orleans 20 years ago. He’s is one cool cat, more on him later.

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NOLA on my mind – Day 2

This entry is part 3 of 3 in the series New Orleans Mission Trip

Gulf feetMobile to NOLA, Sunday, September 11

After a well-deserved slow, lazy start and a quick bite at Popeye’s (oh how I’ve missed you!) we hit the road. We took I-90 so that we could enjoy the Mississippi coast and my partner could get her first view of the Gulf of Mexico. We dipped our toes in the water at Biloxi and got a first-hand look as how the Gulf Coast was and was not rebuilding. The coast is a strange mix of  shiny brand new buildings and empty lots and driveways that lead to nothing but weeds.

We got into New Orleans around 3 and went straight to our host church and settled in. We were met by Donna, a member of the host church, and learned the housekeeping details of our stay. We found out that we were the only people scheduled to be there that week, and that we had full access to the church and it’s kitchen, bathrooms, and laundry facilities. And we were going to be honored guests at a church potluck dinner on Monday. Talk about keys to the kingdom!!! There’s nothing like southern hospitality. We got settled quickly, went grocery shopping, and headed out to the French Quarter.

We soaked in all of the sights and sounds of the Quarter. I had several flashbacks to my time in NOLA and memories I share with my ex-husband – a bittersweet lining to our fantastical, neon clouds. We ate crayfish etouffe, gumbo, jambalaya, alligator sausage, and red beans and rice with a hurricane to wash it down. On top of that we saw a rockin’ cover band, a tour-de-force of a drag show, and ended the evening with hot buttered rum in a sweet little jazz club.

Pure bliss. We fell into bed knowing we were in for a hard day’s labor on Monday.

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NOLA on my mind – Day 1

This entry is part 1 of 3 in the series New Orleans Mission Trip

The dynamic duoHello! I haven’t disappeared – I just took a little break and headed down to New Orleans for an amazing trip. I was born and raised in the Baton Rouge, LA area – and have many relatives in the New Orleans area – I spent many Mardi Gras at my aunt’s house. I also lived on the North Shore back in the early 2000s.

Background

Anyhooo…a few months ago I noticed a mission opportunity on the UCC.org website to do post-Katrina rebuilding. It piqued my interest but the available dates were in September and didn’t seem doable with the kiddos in school then. Just a few days later a friend of mine sent me a link to that very opportunity and asked if I would be interested in going with her. Well, heck, I had to say yes then. I talked to Chris and he talked to his parents and they agreed to come up and stay at the house that week and pick up the kids from school/handle errands/etc. We talked to our pastor, received his blessing, and quickly signed up. The next step was fundraising. I decided to have yard sales (how convenient!), put out a call at church for yard sale donations and we made a little over $800! Woot!

Unfortunately my friend had to drop out due to some personal issues. With no one else signed up it looked like it might not happen. Luckily a very new member of our congregation stepped in and we were back in business. I was a little nervous heading out with someone I barely knew – but I put it in God’s hands and figured if she was interested in going she must be cool.

Day 1 – Saturday, September 10

Our day started at 7am. My partner headed out and drove through Kentucky and Tennessee. We had a polite “getting to know you” conversation and listened to a lot of music. One of the things we talked about was our mutual love of rocks. Cue signs for “Rock City” as we neared Chattanooga. We were doing great on time so we decided to check it out.

OMG! Best thing ever!!! The amazing rock formations, the view, the swinging bridge (the first of many tests of our fortitude), the fairy tale caverns. It was too much, we felt like we’d fallen down the rabbit-hole and entered an alternate dimension. A few hours later we hit the road again and drove all of the way to Mobile, AL.

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What the hole under the stairs has taught me

In a previous post I talked about our current house project and some of the unpleasantness under our house and a few things I’ve learned for it. To recap:

1. Get your house inspected before you buy it.

2. Go with what you got.

Here’s number three – You are always in the right place.

I could be freaking out and trying to find a new house, a better house, a house without issues. But this house is where I need to be right now, and where I want to be. We did start to look for houses recently when Chris got his new job in June – we were in that “moving on up” mode. But most of the houses in our price range in the neighborhood we want to live in have issues. Southside is a great neighborhood but it is known for saggy floors, flooding basements, and bad addons and remodels from previous generations of owners.

If we had gotten a house inspection (which I know we should have done) we probably would have passed on this house. And I our lives would be different. Without our awesome neighbors we would not have the fantastic circle of friends we have. Without said circle I would not have had the support from one of those friends to start a garden, which means I would not have started the Home Harvest program at my church. And I wouldn’t have my dog nanny job. And if we had ended up in a different neighborhood that wasn’t as walkable I wouldn’t have started going to my church, wouldn’t go to the mommy meetup that is downtown, wouldn’t have met the people who are my closest friends right now. I wouldn’t have the support system I have, I wouldn’t be doing the things I am.

Thinking on that I realized I would have found other friends, would be doing other things, would be on a different path. And it would be awesome, and I wouldn’t be able to imagine a different life. And that’s where the lightbulb moment happened. That would have been the right place also!

I’ve always been a seeker, looking for the next adventure, the next career, the next obsession. That’s why I’ve had three husbands, lived in six states, had several career paths, and a revolving cavalcade of friends.

And now I am content.

Don’t get me wrong, I still want adventures, I am just content enough in my life that I don’t need to chuck my whole life to  have them. Today I’m headed to New Orleans for a church-sponsored mission trip. Just two girls who barely know each other hurtling down the highway for a week’s worth of hard work and outrageous fun.

I am in the right place – physically and mentally.

Peace! I’m hoping to update from the road but I’m not promising anything!

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What’s going on in my dining room?

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Yeah, that’s a big hole underneath my stairs.

Our house suffers from “saggy floors”, VERY saggy floors. Home improvement job number one has been fix the floors. We came into some money through selling our minivan and we paid off a medical bill and an old cable bill we recently found out about (it’s from Albuquerque and had gone to a collection agency – yay for pulling your credit report and finding stuff like that). We also now have an “emergency” fund to deal with life’s little unpleasantries that come (like the leak under our kitchen sink that will be fixed tomorrow). And we have enough money to pay for the floor fix (we had gotten an estimate a few months ago).

Anyhooo…here’s the deal. The floors needed fixing but we had no way to access the crawl space under our house. Our contractor suggested going through the space under our stairs so we wouldn’t have to go through the living or dining room floors. Excellent, the bonus is that they will turn the space under the stairs into a coat closet!

Once the guys got under the house yesterday they found a lot of unpleasant stuff. Termite damage to a main support beam that had been sloppily “fixed” and will need to be replaced at some point. An air conditioner duct that has a side missing so it has been just open to air underneath our house – this explains some of the insect (crickets) activity in our house. All of the air conditioning ductwork is literally sitting on the ground underneath the house – can you say rust bucket? We will need to replace everything at some point – and also there will have to be some excavating done so that the new ductwork will not come into contact with bare earth. My dreams of a total kitchen renovation just went up in a cloud of termite dust and rust.

My contractor said if this house had had a home inspection it might not have passed because of some of the issues under the house. And the important life lesson that I should have gleaned is to “get your house inspected!!!” And while I have gotten that message the bigger one is “go with what you’ve got.” This is our house and I love it. We can certainly take on these issues one by one, they will be added to our list of “house stuff” and we will knock them out one at a time. We’ll be rearranging the priority order of the list and that’s ok.

If this had happened a few months ago I would be freaking out. Ack, a looming big expenditure!! And we’re so broke! What will we do!! There would be emotionally fraught discussions and much wringing of hands.

Today, I am very zen about it. We now have a $2k emergency fund. I have taken a hard look at our finances and we are actively cutting costs -YMCA membership is now gone, cable is about to go away as we just got a Roku and love it, and our ongoing toilet leak issue will be fixed tomorrow which will save us $$. Our one credit card will be paid off next month. I’m also doing little things like making my own laundry soap, drying our clothes on racks, tracking down and eliminating the electricity vampires in our house, and streamlining my pantry to cut down on waste.

And we’re looking at ways to increase our income. I’ve taken a dog nanny job and am hoping to start working for our church in an official paid capacity soon. I’m toying with a couple of small business ideas and would also like to push my photography to make some money there (I recently sold a piece at a local show). I could try to find a full-time job (which is hard to come by in this economy in this city) but I would then also have to find and pay for daycare, find a job that worked with Chris’ schedule (he goes out of town a couple times a month so no weekend or evening shifts for me), and I wouldn’t have time for the things that are truly important to me like our family. Just the thought of paying for full-time daycare during the summer months makes me ill. I just don’t think I could find a job that paid me enough to make it worthwhile. It’s so strange for me to not have a job and not be the main breadwinner – I’ve put two different guys through college, brought home the bacon so my ex-husband could pursue his rock star dreams, and was  the breadwinner the last two years we lived in Albuquerque. And yet I seem to be as busy as ever – strange that. Anyway part-time jobs and self-employment seem to be the way to go for me right now.

Getting back on topic. We now feel much more in control of our finances. We have a budget, we have a plan, we’ve cut costs and continue to do so, and we’ve increased income and hope to continue to do so. Finding about the house issues a few months ago would have thrown us into turmoil but today we are taking it in stride.

And we’re about to have a coat closet.

 

 

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Post Purge Kitchen

This entry is part 13 of 17 in the series Simplify

A month ago I did a major purge of my kitchen and showed some pics. And the purge has stuck! I even purged a few more things that were not being used. For instance, we had two sets of monster grilling tools – but we don’t own a grill. Yeah, those have left the building. Also, a non-working blender that I had stashed for no particular reason (I’m guessing the kitchen trash was full and I didn’t want to walk outside the the garbage can). I found a stash of Juicy Juice (in a corner cabinet – not in the pantry where it should be) and went through our drugs, which we keep in a kitchen cabinet so the kids can’t reach them, and purged the expired ones.

So this is how it looks now.

Kitchen View

Note we now have a bread machine, thanks to a generous friend who was no longer using it. I haven’t used it yet as I have to research, ponder, and circle kitchen appliances for a while before I actually use them. I just started using our juicer recently even though we’ve had it since last winter. The small nest of stuff on the counter is Chris’, I’m choosing to ignore it. And the Sierra Mist is now off the floor as this photo made me realize I really needed to find a place for it – now storing them in my pantry. The Country Crock tub is my compost bin receptacle – I keep it near the juicer as that’s where most of our compost bin stuff comes from.

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Things have changed a little over here as well. We now have a toaster oven. We used to have a regular toaster but Chris likes toaster ovens better – we got this at the yard sale I had recently. We donated the old toaster and are using this daily for morning toast (we never used to have toast because the old toaster stayed inside a cupboard). The kitchen scale does not need to be out but I think it’s cute. We rotate our fruit bowls between the counter and the dining room table. Something to note that we no longer have on our counter is a dish drying rack. We mostly hand wash our dishes but let them air dry in the dishwasher, it helps keep our countertop clear and I have more space to work. The George Foreman grill is being given to a friend this weekend.

Working in and cleaning up the kitchen has been much easier since the purge and I am no longer in danger of being beaned by random falling objects when I open my cabinets now. We are having work done on our house right now and everything this morning was covered in dust because there was a huge hole cut into my dining room wall yesterday evening. The whole cleanup of the kitchen took under 30 minutes – including wiping all surfaces including the open shelves, washing and drying the dishes that were out in the open, and sweeping and mopping. Wooohooooo!

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 Here’s a few things I’ve read in the past week:

Simple Sanctuary at Cat’s Meow – this post captures how I feel as I’ve purged our house. That space to breathe is lovely.

A reminder about what life is all about from Ex-Consumer.

My friend Stacy was recently asking for some more healthy, yummy options for breakfast. And then I ran across this article at Kitchen Stewardship. I just discovered Kitchen Stewardship and am loving it!

Speaking of Stacy I was featured on her blog in her series interviewing car-lite and carfree families in Huntington. Another friend, Jenny, was also featured this week.

Over at 365 Less Things I’m loving the Mini Missions. Check it out a weekly dose of decluttering inspiration.

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By the numbers (or not)

This entry is part 12 of 17 in the series Simplify

A lot of minimalist blogs revolve around numbers. How many things purged in a certain time period, how many objects one owns, how little square footage a living space is.

As a geek who loves graphs and charts and numbers I am very attracted to this type of  organization. I even thought about doing some sort of number-oriented project myself, but ultimately decided against it. First, I’m pretty deep into my purging already so it’s impossible to count how much stuff I’ve gotten rid of. Second, I don’t plan on reducing the objects I own to to a tiny number – I think the number of art objects I own is more than the entire lot of personal possessions of some uber-minimalists. And I’m ok with that. Third, it just isn’t fun (for me) to actually try to enumerate things as I purge them. I tried it one day and it just slowed my process. That “process” is actually no process at all, which is why I never have “before” photos. I’ll walk by a pile or a bookshelf or whatever and and just purging. When I’m done with it I always am like “darn I wish I had a before photo.” Oh well. Sunday I purged my bathroom cabinet – mostly because I noticed my hair-dryer on top of it and wanted to get it inside the cabinet versus on top of it.

So how to I gauge  the amount of purging I’ve done? Well, I have a few markers that I use. First – the amount of storage items I don’t need any longer. The photo shows the storage/organizational items I’ve been able to purge in the last week.

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I’ve also gotten rid of a 5-shelf and a 3-shelf bookshelf. Second – volume. I stage my purge items on our enclosed porch. It gives me a little shiver of joy to see all of the stuff that’s leaving our house. Third – it all hinges on feelings. When I walk into an room and it feels goooooood I know that I’ve purged enough.

Enough

Enough

This living room may make a true minimalist cringe. But for me, this is enough. This makes me happy. The TV stand used to be overflowing with DVDs we never watched. Now we’ve reduced them by over 75% – mostly kids stuff because they actually watch their movies. The mantle used to be completely cluttered with cards, photos, tchotchkes, and art. It was impossible to truly see it all. Now it is clean and spare and you can actually see the pieces on it. There are no piles of papers (paper is totally my thing), no library books hidden under said piles. Where the loveseat (and my computer desk is just to the left of that outside of the frame) used to sit an ugly floral couch. We ditched the couch, brought in the computer, and the loveseat is from our patio furniture. There used to be a small space heater  in the fireplace opening. We never used it and I always thought it was ugly. It’s gone! Now the kids hide in there and put on “shows” from it. The two ottomans used to be right in front of the couch but we moved them around to open up the room.

This room is done!

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Toys, toys, toys

This entry is part 11 of 17 in the series Simplify

I did another round of purging in William’s room. I thought about doing it without the kids, but in the end decided to have them involved in the process. And they were excellent! William, who usually chews on things a long time before making a decision was brief and to the point – yes (keep), no (get rid of) or Katie’s. Katie was more of a “keeper”, but she did release a lot of things also. We purged a whole bin of items and cleared out a whole 5-shelf bookcase.

Dealing with their toys has made me realize several things:

1.Less toys is better than more toys. We uncovered so many toys they had forgotten about and loved, buried under toys they immediately said “throw away.” And there were so many useless figurines (from Nana) that they truly didn’t even like – a set of frog figurines springs to mind – Katie said they scared her. I had kept them because they came from Nana but I allowed the children to release themselves from these hideous creatures. I will never make them keep something  just because of who gave it to them.

Kids in Boxes

Kids and Boxes

2. Kids don’t actually need toys. Recently I watched Katie playing with two marbles and a step stool. She would release the marbles on top of the stool and see which one “won” the race by falling over the edge first. Seriously. Ten million toys in her room and this is how she chooses to entertain herself. Last year my kids fell in love with a box that Katie’s bed came in. They used it as a rocket, an elevator,a boat, and a coffin(because they were vampires). They used markers and stickers to decorate it.  They wailed when I would mutter about throwing it away. That box stayed with us until it fell apart from so much use.

3. Simple is better. So many toys these days are so narrow and specific and only allow kids to do/make one thing. I was looking at Legos recently and they are not the Legos of my youth. It’s all about kits that make specific things. Crayola is no longer about crayons, it’s about Color Wonder this and Glow Explosion that. And the kids have been gifted a ton of that stuff – and they play with it once and never touch it again – crayons and markers they go back to day in and day out.

4. I’m over buying them toys for a while. Katie’s birthday was Tuesday and today I redecorated her room as her present. It’s now filled with a whole bunch of rockstar/punk princess stuff. She loves it. She and William are actually in her room playing right now – they usually spend most of their play time in his room.  We’ll see what happens with Christmas – I’m thinking buying them bikes might be just what Santa ordered.

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Daily Juice

This entry is part 9 of 9 in the series Juicing

Chris and I are still drinking at least one juice a day – generally breakfast – although mine today is a lunch juice as I was running around all morning and forgot about eating.

Today’s juice:

For Chris – 2 pears, 1 green bell pepper

For Raine – 1 beet, 1 cucumber, 4 carrots

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